i failed chemistry!

hello my friends!! you know summer is almost over when the great NYS fair is upon us!! all that traffic!! lol and that delicious smell when you drive by!! i always eat my way through the fair! i hope the good weather stays with us for alot longer though.
humans are supposed to be the smarter species, but we could learn a few lessons from animals. for instance, several species of animals mate for life. lets take canadian geese for example. they land on my pond every spring and every fall during their travels, honking up a storm! and when the hunters take their quota they always leave several devestated geese behind desperately searching for their mates. and they don't leave. they stay there. now humans on the other hand it's just not tha simple. because we are more intelligent and are always looking for more...we choose several mates in a lifetime.
it is my firm belief that MOST of us-and no not all, so those of you who married your childhood sweetie and still get the "utz" don't get your jockies in a knot! but most of us don't mate for life until we are in our 40s or even 50s. maybe later. its all about chemisty. i think we settle for whatever reason. 'cause "it's the right thing to do" (see my last blog!). or we want kids..whatever. one person has chemisty, the other not so much so what the heck lets get married we could be happy. but not for long. then its gone...it's no longer fun and boom you move on. but when you BOTH have that rare and amazing chemistry-grab it because thats the one. you get that "utz" in your stomach when they smile at you, or you look at them-even 10, 20 years later. but i think that comes with maturity, and knowing what you want. do you have your "utz"? i mean the long term "utz"? it's a legitimate question. don't settle. it's not fair to either of you and life is too short.

the good news and the bad news about chemisty is that we never fully understand how it works. every relationship is an experiment, you never know exactly what you'll get. (just like forrest gump and his box of chocolates!) some people bring out a side of you that you didn't know you had. some people remind you that your story isn't over. some people surprize you. and once in awhile you surprize yourself, and although all relationships require compromise, sometimes you get more not less. and sometimes YOU CAN"T GET MORE (obviously that statement is important), sometime what you had is gone forever. and although it's painful you have to find the strength to go on. to keep searching for that love, for that one perfect ingredient. no matter how far or how deep youo have to go to find it. (men in trees)

until next time...safe journey.