hello my friends!! you know summer is almost over when the great NYS fair is upon us!! all that traffic!! lol and that delicious smell when you drive by!! i always eat my way through the fair! i hope the good weather stays with us for alot longer though.
humans are supposed to be the smarter species, but we could learn a few lessons from animals. for instance, several species of animals mate for life. lets take canadian geese for example. they land on my pond every spring and every fall during their travels, honking up a storm! and when the hunters take their quota they always leave several devestated geese behind desperately searching for their mates. and they don't leave. they stay there. now humans on the other hand it's just not tha simple. because we are more intelligent and are always looking for more...we choose several mates in a lifetime.
it is my firm belief that MOST of us-and no not all, so those of you who married your childhood sweetie and still get the "utz" don't get your jockies in a knot! but most of us don't mate for life until we are in our 40s or even 50s. maybe later. its all about chemisty. i think we settle for whatever reason. 'cause "it's the right thing to do" (see my last blog!). or we want kids..whatever. one person has chemisty, the other not so much so what the heck lets get married we could be happy. but not for long. then its gone...it's no longer fun and boom you move on. but when you BOTH have that rare and amazing chemistry-grab it because thats the one. you get that "utz" in your stomach when they smile at you, or you look at them-even 10, 20 years later. but i think that comes with maturity, and knowing what you want. do you have your "utz"? i mean the long term "utz"? it's a legitimate question. don't settle. it's not fair to either of you and life is too short.
the good news and the bad news about chemisty is that we never fully understand how it works. every relationship is an experiment, you never know exactly what you'll get. (just like forrest gump and his box of chocolates!) some people bring out a side of you that you didn't know you had. some people remind you that your story isn't over. some people surprize you. and once in awhile you surprize yourself, and although all relationships require compromise, sometimes you get more not less. and sometimes YOU CAN"T GET MORE (obviously that statement is important), sometime what you had is gone forever. and although it's painful you have to find the strength to go on. to keep searching for that love, for that one perfect ingredient. no matter how far or how deep youo have to go to find it. (men in trees)
until next time...safe journey.
Monday, August 30, 2010
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
what exactly is the right thing to do?
hello my friends!! wow look at this!! here i am writing again so quickly!! well i have alot on my mind these days. here we go again with the choices. not just me, my friends and family. all of us. what to do what to do. right? whats the right thing to do. well my pop always used to tell me that doing the right thing ISN'T always the right thing to do. i didn't get it then, but i did as i got older, and i sure do now. i see my friends in unhappy relationships, marraiges, jobs, situations, making up excuses about why they stay, ultimately i get "it's the right thing to do." all the while they are unhappy, and making the rest of us unhappy. excuses don't change the outcome. all to often we stick to what's familiar, whats safe. we like the routine, why take a chance of messing that up? hell, we might just be happy..it's like we are afraid of success. i'm just as guilty. always leaning on, "it's the right thing to do." afraid people will judge us, or make us feel guilty for taking in some pleasure, finding happiness. we shouldn't interfere in our friends and families lives because we don't agree with what they are doing or we don't think it's right. we may be affecting they're decisions with our opinions. don't do something you think is right because everyone says its right-it may not be the right thing to do. it may not be the right thing for YOU. i always say if it makes you happy, then it makes me happy. what i think, doesn't matter.
my predecessor abe lincoln once said "when i do good, i feel good. when i do bad, i feel bad." if only it were that black and white. sometimes doing the right thing makes you feel everything but good. it can feel scarey, or uncomfotable. [unhappy] because even when you make the right choices, things can still happen. as much as we want them, there are no guarentees [in life]. all we can do is have faith. and if we act with our heart, the things we do will one day make us feel right. even if sometimes the thing we do feels just a little wrong. (men in trees)
until next time...safe journey.
my predecessor abe lincoln once said "when i do good, i feel good. when i do bad, i feel bad." if only it were that black and white. sometimes doing the right thing makes you feel everything but good. it can feel scarey, or uncomfotable. [unhappy] because even when you make the right choices, things can still happen. as much as we want them, there are no guarentees [in life]. all we can do is have faith. and if we act with our heart, the things we do will one day make us feel right. even if sometimes the thing we do feels just a little wrong. (men in trees)
until next time...safe journey.
Monday, August 16, 2010
what about the past?
hello my friends!!! wow! what a fantastic summer!! and its just winging by so fast!! why can't winter go this fast? this blog took me a looong time to write. not only was i studying for the "dreaded test"..LOL..right donnie? but it was hard to find the right words. so i wrote it, then i re-wrote it. the i re-wrote it again! yikes! i've never second guessed myself so many times!! i've been doing that lately-i don't recommend it, its not a good idea.
ah the past. its a double-edged, no a triple-edged sword, ok multiple edges!! you can fall off at any given moment. i've heard it said, "don't dwell on the past" or "don't go back unless you want to be there." well sometimes i do want to be there. i had some damn good times i'd like to relive over and over again. or maybe i'd "get it right" this time. but mostly i don't like, or want to make the same mistakes twice, so i want to learn from my past. you can't just sweep the past under the rug and walk away. doesn't work like that. number one you wont learn a damn thing from it, number two it doesn't just go away, its always there, it WILL find you and it sneaks up on you in the most inconvenient times. you gotta face it. own it. and yes that is the voice oof experiece talking there. LOL. and i don't know a single person in this world who hasn't made mistakes and then just tried to forget them or hide from them. damn dog wakes up everytime. and number three-don't forget about those good times-enjoy them. that's why they're called "the good ol' days."
we think of the past as water under the bridge, a current that carries away the mistakes of our youth. the loves we lost, the addictions we gave into, the opportunities we threw away. but sooner or later reminders drift back into our lives of the mistakes we've made and the sins we've commited. and we do have to pay for them.
the past is never truely behind us. ghosts lurk in the shadows eagar to remind us of the choices we made. but if we look back, we might find an old friend welcoming us with open arms, or an old enemy with a hidden agenda. sadly, some of us refuse to look back, never understanding that by denying the past, we are condemed to repeat it. (author unknown)
until next time...safe journey.
ah the past. its a double-edged, no a triple-edged sword, ok multiple edges!! you can fall off at any given moment. i've heard it said, "don't dwell on the past" or "don't go back unless you want to be there." well sometimes i do want to be there. i had some damn good times i'd like to relive over and over again. or maybe i'd "get it right" this time. but mostly i don't like, or want to make the same mistakes twice, so i want to learn from my past. you can't just sweep the past under the rug and walk away. doesn't work like that. number one you wont learn a damn thing from it, number two it doesn't just go away, its always there, it WILL find you and it sneaks up on you in the most inconvenient times. you gotta face it. own it. and yes that is the voice oof experiece talking there. LOL. and i don't know a single person in this world who hasn't made mistakes and then just tried to forget them or hide from them. damn dog wakes up everytime. and number three-don't forget about those good times-enjoy them. that's why they're called "the good ol' days."
we think of the past as water under the bridge, a current that carries away the mistakes of our youth. the loves we lost, the addictions we gave into, the opportunities we threw away. but sooner or later reminders drift back into our lives of the mistakes we've made and the sins we've commited. and we do have to pay for them.
the past is never truely behind us. ghosts lurk in the shadows eagar to remind us of the choices we made. but if we look back, we might find an old friend welcoming us with open arms, or an old enemy with a hidden agenda. sadly, some of us refuse to look back, never understanding that by denying the past, we are condemed to repeat it. (author unknown)
until next time...safe journey.
Monday, August 2, 2010
peace, love and BEER!!!
hello my friends!! did you miss me?? ok don't answer that, i can be sensative ..LOL. anyway, i hope you are enjoying this beautiful summer!!! at least this year we got more then one month-haha!! so yesturday i had the greatest experience....brought me back in the past to so many great memories!! we went to a mini woodstock-minus all the drunks and drugs of course!! LOL it was a middles ages festival in a park, people from all walks of life, playing gutars and washboareds-LOL sitting on blankets and lawnchairs, or up dancing in the rain, kids playing....i remember people talking about woodstock, which i always wished i was old enough too go to, and all the great concerts they used to have at longbranch park when we sang music with a purpose, about a cause, when everything seemed to matter....and this time i was not only with great friends, but i got to bring my 10 year old son with me!! we created a new memory together...i wished the moment had lasted forever.
life would be so good if we could just freeze moments in time. the time when we were happy. when we knew we were loved, [or had a purpose,] but we can't. so instead we find ourselves retracing footsteps that may have washed away. we fight to remember [those good times, and] those connections even as time wipes our slaates clean, we strive to make [new memories and] connections that we hope time will indulge. when communication fails, words [and songs] remain behind. proof that we were here, that we mattered, that someone cared. in the end, the past may be all we have.(author unknown)
until next time....safe journey.
life would be so good if we could just freeze moments in time. the time when we were happy. when we knew we were loved, [or had a purpose,] but we can't. so instead we find ourselves retracing footsteps that may have washed away. we fight to remember [those good times, and] those connections even as time wipes our slaates clean, we strive to make [new memories and] connections that we hope time will indulge. when communication fails, words [and songs] remain behind. proof that we were here, that we mattered, that someone cared. in the end, the past may be all we have.(author unknown)
until next time....safe journey.
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